Your divorce may look different than anyone else's. This is important to remember, especially when getting advice from well-meaning friends. The experience is not always the same for everyone.
If someone asked you where Florida ranked in the divorce rate among states in the U.S., would you guess that it is among the highest or among the lowest? Many people would cite the high population of elderly couples who retire to Florida, assuming that most couples of that age stay together, and say that the state would rank fairly low compared to other states.
How is your spouse going to react when you ask for a divorce? Will they be shocked? Will they nod knowingly, having felt the same way for a long time? Will they think you're joking?
When you think about getting divorced, you likely imagine going in front of a judge and having them tell you how you need to divide your assets or split up your time with the kids. And, for many couples, this is exactly how it works. But does it have to be this way?
Have you ever asked yourself why divorce seems so common in the modern world? Have you ever wondered what relationships looked like historically?
Conventional wisdom says that half of all marriages end in divorce. Many people, when asked, will tell you that the divorce rate is 50%.
One of the biggest pieces of advice that many divorce experts give is simple: Rediscover yourself. Embrace the fact that life is going to change, rather than fighting it. If you do this, you can take a more positive outlook toward your now-single life.
You're heading toward a divorce and you worry about how hard it's going to be emotionally. You also worry that you may not feel very happy after the marriage ends, even if you know it is the right thing to do.
In the middle of January, are you more likely to get divorced? Why do people call it "Divorce Month?"
Your spouse serves you with divorce papers. You want nothing to do with getting a divorce. This isn't the future you chose. You consider just ignoring the paperwork entirely. Can you do so?