While most people are starting the new year with goals to lose weight, get a better job or eat healthier, those who are going through divorce may be simply trying to survive the stress of separation. This may not be the best time to make other big life changes in areas such as your career, but it can be a great time to evaluate how you are doing mentally, physically and emotionally and make some goals that will help you improve those areas and get through divorce. Here are a few ideas for resolutions from DivorceMag.com that can help you now as well as in the future.
The loss of a marriage is not usually taken lightly and requires a period of grieving. Be patient with yourself as you come to terms with the fact that the union is over. It will take time for you to overcome feelings of sadness, but eventually you will be more at peace. If you have children, understand that they will also need time to process their own emotions and come to terms with the changes in their lives.
Rise above negativity
Being negative after divorce is easy, especially if you have been a victim of infidelity or abuse. No matter what reason has led you to separation, decide today that it is in the past and the only way to move forward is to rise above it. One of the best ways to do this is by surrounding yourself with positive people. You will find plenty of other divorced people who have succumbed to the anger and resentment that can come with the end of a relationship, but being determined to remain hopeful about the future can open doors of opportunity that would otherwise remain closed.
This goal also applies to your interactions with your ex-spouse. If you are co-parenting, you will likely see each other often and find plenty of chances to argue. Resolve to always be the bigger person and realize you are not being walked on, you are setting an example of taking the high road and making life easier for yourself and your family.
Focus on healing
While the exercise and eating goals may seem overused and trite, they can make a big impact on your mental, emotional and physical health. Establishing good habits can give you constructive ways to deal with stress and help you feel better during this difficult time.
One of the best resolutions at this time is to find an experienced, compassionate attorney who can help you navigate the complicated legal system. Contact one today and you will have an advocate as you start the new year and a new life.