You and your spouse met in college. You got married just after graduation. Five years later, unfortunately, your spouse asked for a divorce.
You do not have any student loan debt. You worked two jobs and paid your way through college. Your spouse, however, took on massive amounts of debt that he or she has to pay back. As a couple, the two of you have been making those payments every month.
A series of arguments and betrayals leads to your divorce. You feel wronged. Your spouse caused this divorce. Their conduct ended the marriage. You never want to talk to them again.
This reaction may be perfectly understandable, especially if infidelity was involved, and it may be worth it to take some time to cool off. Don't say or do things that you regret in the heat of the moment.
Your spouse files for divorce, and you know right away that you're going to have to sell the house. There is no way that either one of you can afford it on your own. You'll need to buy two new homes after you make the split official.
You don't mind moving, but you do worry about your kids. No matter how the custody arrangement plays out, they'll have to move. You suspect that you'll share joint custody, meaning they'll really need to move into two new homes.
Everyone has expectations when they get married. When the marriage itself does not match up with those expectations, it can lead to divorce -- even if the other person isn't really to blame.
For instance, one man said that after he got divorced, he found out that his wife was "missing something" in her life. Her idea was that getting married would finally make her feel complete and happy. It would give her what she was looking for.
Dissolution of any relationship can be a painful situation to encounter, but the tension can be especially thick when it involves children. If you and your long-time partner were raising a child together prior to the breakup, you expect him to pay support to help you cover subsequent expenses. What if he suddenly denies that the child is his to support?
In the state of Florida, there are many stipulations that must be present for your ex to disestablish paternity. Understanding these terms can help you gather evidence to enforce child support.
After divorce, relocation can get a bit harder if you have kids.
Imagine that you get custody of the children, but your ex gets to have them every other weekend. They also have some visitation rights during the week, even though the kids still live with you.
When you get divorced as a parent, you may be tempted to let the rules go. After all, you feel like you dragged the child through the divorce. Sure, the child custody arrangement keeps both you and your ex involved in your child's life, but you know it's not the same. You feel bad about that, even if you're glad you got divorced on a personal level.
This can cause serious problems. Don't let your guilt change the way that you treat your child.
Adopting a child is a huge decision, and it's one that you have to make for all of the right reasons. It's not just your life that changes forever, but the child's as well.
For instance, some people adopt because they simply feel guilty. Maybe they took in a foster child, and that child could never get placed back with his or her own parents. They then decided to adopt to give the child a permanent home, even though they didn't really want to do so, because they felt guilty to tell the child they didn't want to adopt.
For many people, just the thought of divorce brings on a lot of fear and concern. You worry about what people will think. You worry about what life will look like when you're single. You worry about the stress of getting through the divorce process itself.
One woman who went through it said that, for her, the key to overcoming these fears was simply to attack her concerns head-on. She wanted to look into her options and find out how she could face the things she was afraid of. That made them less frightening because she had a plan and she knew how to move forward.
During divorce proceedings, it can be a monumental challenge to determine the best time-sharing plan for the children. A good schedule has clear expectations for each parent, and it considers what is most beneficial to the child. Because nothing is ever static, there may come a time when you need to initiate a modification to your current parenting plan.
A judge must approve any changes made to your plan. There needs to be sufficient evidence that the current schedule no longer favors the child, so it is important to pursue modification for the right reasons.
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