There is a growing population of children and parents who have become estranged or alienated from each other due to the actions and behaviors of another parent. This phenomenon, called parental alienation syndrome, results in some long-term consequences for the alienated parent and the child caught in the middle.
Divorce experts often say that parents need to put the kids first. This is, in part, why you hear parents talk about staying together for the kids. Once they have children together, they assume they can't split up. They think that it is always going to be a negative for the kids. Is that true?
You don't want to get married simply because you have never liked the idea of marriage as an institution. That does not mean you're not committed to your relationship. You are. You and your partner stay together for 10 years.
You think of the summer as a time to relax. Families go on vacation. Kids get time off from school. You have backyard cookouts, you sit by the pool and read a book, you wear comfortable shorts and sandals. It seems like a stress-free time.
You know that the time you spend with your children is important. You know that studies have linked it to behavior patterns, academic performance and things of this nature. After your divorce, you also know that you will have less time with the kids than you did before, so you want to make the most out of it.