It is hard to deal with a divorce. You may not have known your spouse felt so negatively about your marriage, or you may have been committed to making it work out when he or she just didn’t want to any longer. Whatever your situation is, the truth remains that it’s difficult to deal with and extremely frustrating.
A divorce isn’t just painful because it’s expensive or because you have to change the way you live. It’s hard to lose a partnership; even those that aren’t happy relationships are still relationships. You may have known your spouse for decades or just a few years. Either way, it’s emotionally draining to be away from someone who has been your constant since your marriage.
Despite that, some marriages do need to end. Those with violence at their cores or marriages in which people feel trapped or frustrated may not survive, even with counseling. Anger, frustration, sadness and even denial are normal in that situation.
For people in those situations where they did not choose to leave the relationship, the loss they feel is twofold. They may feel not only a loss because of losing their marriages, but also a loss because they were unable to do anything to save them.
Everyone reacts to a divorce differently. No matter how you feel about it, you deserve support while you’re going through this difficult time. You need to know that you have someone on your side who is looking out for your best interests. Your attorney can help you fight for what you want to get out of your marriage.
Source: Helpguide.org, “Dealing with a Breakup or Divorce,” accessed Dec. 11, 2017