Even though you tried to maintain your cool, calm and collected mannerisms during your divorce, it's likely that some parts of it still have been heated. Even if you were able to maintain your calm, your spouse may not have been so accommodating. It's not uncommon for a divorce to be fraught with emotion; these are tense situations in which at least one party is going to feel slighted, angry, depressed or be suffering from a range of other emotions.
So, what can you do to make your divorce go a little smoother? Realize that sometimes, they aren't. There are methods to help resolve conflicts, but if nothing works, you may have to turn to a judge and your attorney for help to get the ball rolling. Of course, it's better to work together to come up with parenting plans, asset division settlements and other agreements, because once a court is involved, you may not be able to have any say in the outcome.
Recognize that your spouse may be feeling angry and hurt, and that's okay. He or she might be criticizing you or try to manipulate you, and if you feel that you're in a precarious position, this is when mediation or negotiating through your attorneys only can be of help. Your spouse might get angry and threaten you, but you do have the right to ask for a restraining order or other accommodations if you feel that you are at risk of personal harm.
Every divorce is different, and your attorney is there to walk you through it step-by-step. The goal of any divorce is to resolve it quickly, and there are options for you no matter what your situation is.
Source: Hey Sigmund, "When Divorce or Separation Turns Ugly," accessed Dec. 23, 2016