Many people struggle emotionally with divorce because they just do not know what they will do after the marriage ends. All they ever planned in life was to get married, buy a home, start a family -- all of the old cliches. When they see that coming to an end, they don't know how to address it.
The key, many experts say, is to decide what you want and how you can work toward it. A few questions you may want to ask include:
- What do you do that really makes you happier than anything else?
- If you struggle to feel relaxed, what brings you the most peace?
- What were your goals when you were younger?
- Imagine that you could pick one thing to do, without thinking about money at all. What would it be?
- If you did not have to work, what activities do you like to do most often?
- What are things that you have put up with for a long time that you always resented?
Now, the key here is not to quit your job and act like there's no future. The point is just to find out what you love. You may not be able to drop everything and do it, but you can focus on that and work toward it. You will find things that make you content and happy that go beyond those cliches.
Not only does this give you a sense of direction, but it also helps you decide what you want to focus on during divorce as you do things like dividing assets and splitting up custody of the children. You need to consider all of your options and what you want out of life when the divorce is official.