Raising children in two homes after a divorce has its challenges. However, they can be minimized when the parents are on the same page. Communication is crucial in co-parenting – it substantially determines its success.
The following are three communication tips for co-parents:
Have communication rules
You and your co-parent should develop communication rules, preferably when creating the parenting plan. It helps to have rules regarding how you can contact each other, how often you can do so, the topics to discuss and so on. Doing this from the get-go can save you a lot of trouble.
Note that you can update the rules with time.
Listen to your co-parent
Your ex-spouse will have their communication needs. It’s crucial to listen to them to avoid misunderstandings. For instance, if your children are younger, perhaps under five years, and you will be residing with them, your co-parent may request to be involved in day-to-day happenings, so they don’t miss any milestones. They may ask you to send photos or video call them.
You should acknowledge your co-parent’s requests and agree on those that are reasonable.
Give standard reports after each parenting time
When exchanging kids, it will be best to give each other in-depth reports. Each parent should be updated about child-related matters.
You don’t need to inform your co-parent about everything the kids did or said in your home, but they should know the major issues. For example, if your child opened up to you about a problem they are facing in school or if they made a mistake and are under punishment, such as grounding.
The above-discussed tips can help you build a successful co-parenting relationship. However, if your co-parent is being uncooperative, consider seeking legal guidance to assess your options.